My Mom…
I have a best friend that I’ve had in my life since I was little. HIS name is Drew. We have always been inseparable. Our teachers would say we were “attached at the hip.” Our parents always wanted us to get together. We would just laugh it off. He is a good guy, but with time he and I have drifted. Don’t get me wrong, we’re still the best of friends, but not as close. We live in different cities. Our lives are on different paths.
He came down to visit me for 10 days. We saw my parents and my sisters and laughed, had many lunches and dinners and basically caught up on each others’ lives.
I found out that after a dinner with my mom and sisters that my mom mentioned to one of them that she “wishes Debbie would lose weight so Drew would like her and they could get married.”
My whole life my mom would say, “You’re so pretty, if only you would lose weight…”
Maybe I don’t feel the need to lose weight subconsciously just to spite her…does that make sense?
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ugh - that makes sense…but you should NOT listen to any of that crap. I’m looking at your picture right now and I think you’re beautiful (and I LOVE your sense of style). you need to lose weight for YOU. not so some guy will like you…not so your mom will finally think you’re pretty (and boy…do I have some choice words to say to her)…but for YOU and your HEALTH.
Always remember that. There are people on this site who will see you for who you are and push you towards your goal in a positive way. So ignore your mom (at least when she refers to your weight)…listen to yourself and what you really want. K? K.
I think Sarah just nailed it!:-)
Sarah is right, dont surround yourself with negativity becuase it will be you downfall. I was married to a man for ten years who would say things like that and he would put his hand on my leg and squeeze a little saying you feel like you put on a little wieght. I know exactly how you feel, it hurts in such a bad way. If she comments like this all the time you need to distance yourself from her. When I first got with my x husband I wieghed a whopping 120 and I had just had a baby 7 months prior(long story). I am supposed to wiegh 120, well he started with the you would be so pretty if you just lost like 10 pounds. That started my yoyo dieting and here I am now at 180. I would lose 5 gain 10 and so on and so on. You need to do this for you not for your mom and not for anyone else, just you. I failed so many times cause it wasn’t for me it was for him. You can do this if you are doing it cause you want it. Just distance yourself from negative commenting people and you will be fine. Also you know where you can turn to vent your frustrations and find the support you need. You are beautiful!
Sarah is totally right. This is about you not anyone else and if they aren’t with you and there to support you through all your struggles then they’re against you and ya don’t need that negativity.